Some great point for raising kids

I know it has been a long time since I have posted anything. I have been trying to focus on family and work lately. A friend sent me this article; it was from many years ago and I have seen it before. However, with summer here and more kid time I felt it would be a good reminder for dealing with our gifts this year. Enjoy.

Ann Landers article @Creators Syndicate, 5777 W. Century Blvd., Suite 700, Los Angeles, CA 90045
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Rules for Raising Children with Character...

Dear Readers: I am on vacation but I have left behind some of my favorite columns that you may have missed the first time around. I hope you enjoy them.

Dear Ann Landers: Several years ago, you printed Twelve Rules for Raising Children. I carried the column in my wallet until it was no longer legible. Please print it again, Ann—San Antonio mother

Dear Mother: Here it is. Thanks for asking.

1. Remember that a child is a gift from God, the richest of all blessings. Do not attempt to mold him in the image of yourself, your father, your brother, or your neighbor. Each child is an individual and should be permitted to be himself.

2. Don’t crush a child’s spirit when he fails. And never compare him with others who have outshone him.

3. Remember that anger and irritability are natural emotions. Help your child to find socially acceptable outlets for these normal feelings or they may be turned inward and erupt in the form of physical or mental illness.

4. Discipline your child with calmness and reason. Don’t let your anger throw you off balance. If he knows you are fair, you will not lose his respect or his love. And make sure the punishment fits the crime. Even the youngest child has a keen sense of justice.

5. Remember that each child needs two parents. Present a united front. Never join with your child against your mate. This can create emotional conflicts, guilt, confusion and insecurity in your child (and you).

6. Do not hand your child everything his little heart desires. Permit him to know the thrill of earning and the joy of achieving. Grant him the greatest of all satisfactions, the pleasure that comes with personal accomplishment.

7. Do not set yourself up as the epitome of perfection. This is a difficult role to play 24 hours a day. You will find it easier to communicate if you let him know that Mom and Dad can err, too. (My add-in: Be willing when wrong to admit/confess and apologize to your child. Model forgiveness! )

8. Don’t make threats in anger or impossible promises when you are in a generous mood. Threaten or promise only that which you can live up to. To a child, a parent’s word means everything. The child who has lost faith in his parents has difficulty believing in anything.

9. Do not smother your child with superficial manifestations of “love.” The purest and healthiest love expresses itself in day-in, day-out training, which breeds self-confidence and independence.

10. Teach your child there is dignity in hard work, whether it is performed with hands that shovel coal or manipulate surgical instruments. Let him know a useful life is a blessed one and a life of pleasure-seeking is empty and meaningless.

11. Do not try to protect your child against every small blow and disappointment. Adversity strengthens character and makes us compassionate.

12. Teach your child to love God and to love his fellow man. Don’t send your child to a place of worship, take him there. Children learn from example. Telling him something is not teaching him. A deep and abiding faith in God can be his strength and his light when all else fails.

I also thought I would include a picture from this summer. This was taken at my brothers wedding just a couple of weeks ago.


Blessings,